Sunday, May 24, 2009
Que Sera, Sera...
Right now I am in this haven of peace [city of Dehradun], some 170 kms from my hometown- spending time with my family in this most amazing place with some of the most wonderful people I know and now it's well past midnight, when suddenly I had this urge to pen down my thoughts. The timing [at 2 in the night] is quite odd, I know. Was actually listening to music when I came across this old country classic, first perfomed by an artist named Doris Day in 1950’s, and whenever I’m brooding over life's esoteric issues, this famous line almost always brings me some respite.
Listen to the song by the same title and it conveys the meaning quite clearly. More than the meaning and its philosophy, everyone can certainly enjoy the tune and the melody of this classic song. The famous line goes...
“The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
Whatever will be, will be...”
How veritable! Whether or not one chooses to agree on this, I believe that it is fate which decides the outcome of the course of events in our life, even if n number of actions are taken to alter it. Yet, what happens is for the best and what should happen will happen because it is destiny & destiny is fixed and seriously there is no use worrying about it, since anyways, you can't change it. At times, I think it's just a matter of accepting what we can know and what we will never know, being happy with what we have and accepting the things we can never have...
And despite the adversities, if we believe our lives are tragic, that is exactly what they are. If we can hold on to hope inspite of some pretty dire conditions, then we get to laugh last and best. Reminds me of that saying- “Life is a tragedy for those who feel and a comedy for those who think”. Of late I’ve been contemplating life, like today- not in a sad or morose manner, but just trying to evaluate how I live and how I wanna lead my life in times to come and stuff like that & there are few things I've learnt which are crucial to the decisions I make, the attitudes I have and the way I try to live.
Firstly, life is highly unpredictable. Some things will happen, no matter how unanticipated they may be. Yet every situation has some degree of positivity to it. Find it, you’ll feel better . In the grand scheme of things, no one knows a damn thing. Our knowledge is limited and may be, we'll never find the answers to some of those questions we spend our lives searching for. They are beyond our pay-grade. But that doesn't make these questions unworthy of thinking – it only makes them unworthy of anxiety and stress.
More importantly, the only thing we can ever really change about a situation is ourselves and the way we deal with it. Things are going to be sh!t and for a good deal of time, there ain’t gonna be a single thing that you can do to modify that unsought situation. Now you can look at the episode and try to figure out what caused it or who should have changed something, but it doesn't matter! It simply wont! For really you are the only person who you have control over. Everything else is variable. No matter how hard we try to control for outside factors- in this world that’s hilarious, that’s crazy, that’s dysfunctional - the only thing we can trust is ourselves.
At times, I grow really apprehensive when envisaging the future and what it may hold in store for me but then I think to myself- The universe is unfolding as it should, and will continue to do so. That's why, good or bad, unpropitious or affirmative- Que Sera, Sera!
Posted by Anubha at 11:07 AM